How to have a successful relationship in the 21st century
Society has been socially engineered for relationships to fail to create a dependence on the state. Divorce rates across America and European countries are at an all-time high…The desire to mate has been reverse engineered against our benefit. If you’re struggling to keep the passion alive in your marriage or long-term relationship there’s hope. Here’s how to have a successful marriage in the 21st century.
“After I ejaculate I have brain fog, low energy and I’m tongue-tied. I feel mentally and physically exhausted for a week or longer. Last spring I started experimenting. After two weeks without masturbation, i had incredible drive to do things, think clearly, talk to people easily. I simply felt normal. I can destroy that with one or two masturbation.-Rolf”
“I sufferd from depression since I was about twleve until this year(age twenty-four). My depression was part of bipolar dissorder. It has completely gone away since I stopped masturbating. Im taking some herbs too, But abstaining from orgasm definitely helps a lot with my mood.-Andrea”
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How many of you can relate? CPA is filled with confessions and testimonies on how the methods in this book have strengthened relationships. In today’s oversexed liberated society there may be no more important book than Marnia Robinson’s cupid poisoned arrow. Religion is viewed by liberals as oppressive to women’s bodies.
But as we will see later, CPA shows that many spiritual systems understood the importance of controlling your orgasm. This discipline would eventually lead to a spiritual union between man and woman.
Christianity-“They say(Nag Hammadi text) that jesus returned in order to heal the seperation between the sexes in a mystery sacrament of the bridal chamber.”..
“Since that marriage is not like the carnal marriage, those who are to have intercourse with one another will be satisfied with that intercourse. And as if it were a burden, they leave behind them the annoyance of physical desire and they [turn their faces from] each other. But [once] they unite, they become a single life.”
-Taoism-Section 70-The cords of passion and desire weave a binding net around you..The trap of duality is tenacious. Bound,ridgid and trapped, you cannot experience liberation.
[It”s not the semen loss that’s the problem.]”It’s actually the firing of the nervous system during sexual stimulation. That applies to both men and women-Georg Feuerstein.
As natural as the desire to have sex comes to us, it comes with a price, even with our significant others… What we’re really craving is a dopamine release.The main objective to avoid cupids arrow is to balance the dopamine with bonding techniques which will be discussed later.
Once dopamine is released through orgasm there is a significant drop of it. Low dopamine can show symptoms similar to depression. Yet people try to raise it with another orgasm which lowers it. CPA is backed by research and calls this the passion cycle. Who would’ve thought that orgasms would be a barrier to having a successful relationship in the 21st century?
Once the mate orgasms, their bodies are telling them to procreate with a new mate to ensure their survival. To speed up this process the passion cycle gives us two weeks of doubt, anxiety, and disdain about our partner. Further confirming our desire to find a new mate as we have already orgasmed to procreate with someone.
“This is the coolidge effect- a form of habituation in which a mammal experiences low dopamine in response to an existing mate, and a thrilling surge of dopamine in response to a novel(new) mate. The neurochemistry that urges us on to additional mates is our gene’s secret weapon-the poison on cupids arrow.”
Therefore,CPA makes the bold claim that orgasm should only be used for procreation. Furthering supporting the claims in the coiled serpent, read our book review here. At one point in history, this may have been the norm and society has declined so rapidly that it’s hard to imagine.
Cupid’s poisoned arrow is an accurately titled book. The reality of love has never matched the movies that generate $100’s million dollars at the box office. In order to appreciate Marnia’s Robinson masterpiece, you have to realize the disconnect between how we’re taught to approach love and the relationship between our brain chemistry and the reward system in our brain.
The desire to bond is innate in all humans to ensure the survival of the human race. This desire stems for millions of years of primitive living. Millions of years ago dating apps didn’t exist. There weren’t millions of mate to choose from at our fingertips. Our bodies aren’t hardwired nor has it evolved to be able to deal with the mutlitude of mates available today from our phones. But what if your a shy introvert who doesn’t know how to spark a conversation?
The access to porn is new as well. Porn addiction is a real problem as well. In fact, Robinson states that the body knows when it orgasms from intercourse versus masturbation. The majority of the book focuses on controlling your dopamine release. Therefore, even if you’re not in a long-term relationship you should still read this book.
Oxytocin is the chemical that is released once we orgasm enables us to bond with others. Oxytocin makes us feel relaxed and light headed after orgasm. CPA advocates for affectionate bonding techniques to stabilize the wave of dopamine to keep ourselves stable.Kissing, eye gazing, light touches, cuddling, just to name a few.
In conclusion, CPA gives a whole new meaning to safe sex. While sexual liberation is becoming a trend. The real work has been spiritual liberation through controlling the sexual urges. Robinson is just confirming what spiritualist have been saying for eons. Before you spend thousands on marriage therapy spend twenty dollars on this book, there’s over 350 pages that will help you have a successful marriage in the 21st century.