Do you have the courage to be disliked? Book review
In a cancel culture society, the courage to be disliked is something all free thinkers should ask themselves. Are you willing to be labeled all of the terms with negative stigmas associated with them? The courage to be disliked will change your life and help you achieve real happiness. With an emphasis on real, the book contains solid foundational life principles, no cheap ebb and flow of instant gratification happiness but real contentment. Can you take responsibility for everything that has happened in your life? Are you ready to deny your trauma doesn’t exist and that happiness is a choice? If so, you may have the courage to be disliked.
It’s almost as if I enjoy being depressed.
I don’t know if anyone can relate to this but for some reason, whenever I have those very short moments of ”happiness” that dont even last that long, I look at it as something weird, something not normal, something I don’t deserve to experience and because of this I try to make myself depressed again by maybe thinking about the time I fu@ked up during an interview, thinking about that one ex that I still like but cheated on me, thinking about that one time I had the chance to take one step further to reaching my goals but I was too lazy to get out of bed and by this time the ”happiness” is already gone and I’m back to what I think is normal and even though I know I’m doing this to myself, I’m still too lazy to do something about it.
Taken from the depression section of reddit
The courage to be disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga challenges various social norms recently adopted, as evidenced above. It can be refreshing to hear an opposing perspective in a society that champions mental health, therapy, and, some say, a victimhood mentality. It can be empowering as well. It’s good time we ask ourselves whether we enjoy being a victim. Do we want sadness, and depression, in today’s climate? These are controversial questions. However, if there is never a challenge, how will we evolve? Everything we do is because we think it will benefit us. Suppose society and mainstream media tell us that we will pity you. In that case, advocating and championing those struggling with mental health will see the benefit of feeling “down.” Even criminals do wrong because they think it benefits them.
“Without question, there is no shortage of behavior that is evil. But no one, not even the most hardened criminal, becomes involved in crime purely out of a desire to engage in evil acts. Every criminal has an internal justification for getting involved in a crime. A dispute over money leads someone to engage in murder, for instance. To the perpetrator, it is something for which there is a justification and which can be stated as an accomplishment of “good”. Of course, this is not good in a moral sense, but good in the sense of being ” of benefit to oneself”.“At some stage in your life, you chose “being unhappy”. It’s not because you were born into unhappy circumstances or ended up in an uphappy situation. It’s that you judged “being unhappy” to be good for you. -Philosopher from The courage to be disliked
The courage to be disliked is a conversation between a philosopher and a youth. The youth represents modern society’s expectations. The philosopher represents wisdom and experience, and independent thought. Applying the principles in the book will make people not like you because it goes against norms that we were honestly too afraid to question. For instance, as stated above, choosing happiness is a choice; if you implement this into your life, people will become upset when they realize they can’t control your emotions. News headlines and sensationalism instruct people on what topics they should respond to and how they should respond.
Another section that stood out was ” not discarding other people’s tasks.” So many of us are caught up in doing things for others that we’re making them powerless. Another section of the book says that all problems stem from interpersonal relationships. We stated in our previous article that Lord Krishna informs us to do OUR prescribed duties; we’re told that hesitation is the biggest mistake we could make. And today, the country is ripe with anxiety. This is no coincidence, for instance. The philosopher informs the reader and the youth by reassuring him that.
“Philosopher-Unless one is unconcerned by other people judgements, has no fear of being disliked by other people, and pays the cost that one might never be recognized, one will never be able to follow through in one’s own way of living. That is to say, one will not be able to be free.”
Youth-Be disliked by other people-is that what you are saying?”
Philosopher: what I’m saying is, don’t be afraid of being disliked”
Everyone feels they have the moral superiority trump card and can dictate how others should feel. This ties into the first statement about choosing to be unhappy. Many choose to be sad by NOT discarding other people’s tasks. Everyone must work towards and fulfill their karma on this planet. Interference with that is discarding other people’s tasks.
“Philosopher- one neither prepares to be self-righteous nor becomes defiant. One just separates tasks. There may be a person who does not think well of you, but that is not your task. And again, thinking things as He should like me or I’ve done all this, so it’s strange that he doesn’t like me, is the reward- oriented way of thinking of having intervened in another person’s tasks. One moves forward without fearing the possibility of being disliked.
“Philosopher-Seperating one’s tasks is not an egocentric thing. Intervening in other people’s tasks is essentially an egocentric way of thinking”
Yet the mainstream media wants to convince us this group of people hates us, etc. Again, not to advocate violence but to have the discernment to pick your battles vs. when you’re being manipulated.
In conclusion, Our world, unfortunately, views likes, followers, and subscribers as digital oxygen; therefore, many will not have the courage to be disliked. But if you’re willing to challenge yourself and evolve, you will find many empowering principles in this book. Internalizing the separation of tasks and not being everyone’s savior is empowering enough, and your mental health will thank you for it.
“Philosopher- The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked.”